My choice for book club recently: Miss Manners' Guide to Domestic Tranquility by Judith Martin (one of her shorter books at 372 pages).
Miss Manners replying to a question on getting relatives to help with the dishes. . .
One should also factor in that relatives come in three generations. If yours are a generation older than you, the most you can do is to say, "Oh dear, I'm exhausted, but I hate to leave the dishes." If they are your own generation, you may say, "Do you want to wash or dry? (Modern version: "Scrape or load?") If they are younger, i.e., your children, you should say (not ask) pleasantly, "How about giving me a hand," as you point at the kitchen on your way out of it.
Miss Manners commenting on tidiness:
She does know that the notion that messiness is a warm and endearing trait, while orderliness freakish, enjoys amazing success. Even people who truly love order commonly refer disparagingly to their own good habits.Such a fascinating discussion I forgot to knit. But I did remember to eat my slice of Jewish Apple Cake, provided by Sue (I just provided the house and the coffee).