Tuesday, March 13, 2018

"Something stylish but not fashionable"

"There's a certain type of woman who is always dressed in something stylish but not fashionable, expensive but never ostentatious, exquisite yet hard to place: some thoughtful, meticulously cut piece of clothing that channels the contemporary moment while remaining aloof to trends." - Amanda Fortini in T, December 2017



Now that sums up some dressing goals for me! Except for the expensive part. 

I've never been trendy, but I do love clothes and looking nice.  I've found I can wear trendy skinny jeans with some more off-beat, whimsical tops and that looks current.  I also adore plaid and polka dots, which are generally classic and trend-proof.  And I try to wear on-trend shoes, which is not easy because I have big feet and almost always have to order shoes online (try on and return, try on and return - the expense! sigh). 

Are you "stylish but not fashionable"? What are your tips?

10 comments:

Jennifer Jo said...

I don't know if I'm stylish OR fashionable, but I love black. Black on black on black, like right now: black jeans, black sweater, black boots. It makes me feel good AND it's super easy.

Becky said...

I've been told by those who would notice these things that my style essentially hasn't changed since at least high school. All those years of Catholic school have led me to believe I should still wear a 'uniform' which hasn't changed, if we're really going to be honest here, probably since I was a little kid. Black T-shirt (okay, that's the high school update), with denim or black (skirt or pants) with boots or clogs (in red, purple or black.) I have a black dress and black cardigan for every day of the week just to mix it up.

So I guess I'm more stylish, although I do try to keep the lines of what I'm wearing up to date, unless the piece is a classic cut.

Woman of the House said...

I think being stylish but not fashionable has to do with wearing classic clothing that fits and flatters one's own body and shape and that feels comfortable to wear in the sense of making one feel at home in it, like it's a second skin. Avoiding anything too trendy and keeping accessories minimal also helps. And I agree with you about plaid and polka dots. I have always loved both and they are always stylish!

Polly said...

I think I fall into this category (except the "always" part because I often wear yoga pants and tee-shirts at home because I exercise so much throughout the day these days! or jeans and sweatshirts, especially if I'm working a lot around the house and am chilly, or going for a long walk outside on the farm). My tips are: 1) find your style and stick with it....mine is what I call "edgy classic"...trends come and go but if you have a firm idea of what your own style is, you can incorporate some things without being a slave to trendiness; 2) wear clothes that FIT; 3) keep it simple, both in terms of a small wardrobe (I have 2 pairs of jeans, same brand, different colors, love them, one pair of trousers, 2 skirts, one dress for winter...literally very small wardrobe) and in terms of accessories. I personally would never wear earrings, a bracelet, and a necklace, for instance....too much. Elegance is refusal....;) In winter I like to wear a scarf b/c I'm so cold natured, and generally pearl earrings or a gold/silver pair my father gave me. I like the classics.

Phoebe is making a good start, I think!!!



e said...

I wear the fashion of my people: jeans, t-shirts, hoodie or overshirt. I've been dressing this way almost my entire life. At 58, I've come to terms with that! Plus, it's a definite classic...

Leila said...

After many years, I've figured out what looks best on my particular body type is going to be "stylish" for me, and I do try not to look like I tumbled out of another decade (depends on the decade, though because to be honest some were better than others!) -- the trouble is finding the those things!

Especially since I do wear a skirt to Church on Sunday, and skirts are definitely not in style (and the ones you can find are not flattering and are too short). The best skirts are at Goodwill. I love shoes and have noticed that having big feet would be a real plus if you had the time to swoop through the clearance sections of DSW, Marshall's, or Macy's. It's those of us in the 8 range who have trouble finding those awesome discounts!

Tammy said...

When I'm buying shoes online, I use Amazon and make sure they have free returns/free shipping. I am a bit (OK, a lot...) of a Princess and the Pea when it comes to my shoes so shoes are a frustrating thing for me to shop for, especially online. But free returns help out!

Jo said...

Try Zappos for shoes. Free shipping and free return shipping. : )

AmyK said...

I don't consider myself fashionable - or trendy- but I try to be stylish. More and more I want to have clothing that fit nicely, complements my figure, will last many years, and are well made. Usually I roll my eyes at new trends (it takes me while to come around to a new style, so if it is too brief, then I don't usually wear it) and stick to classics. When it comes to shoes, I like them to last, so I tend to buy well-made shoes (and I get them re-heeled and polished up as needed). I also have gravitated to plain colors: black, gray, white/cream, navy blue and I'll have shoes or a scarf in plaid or a bright accent color. Maybe a bright skirt here or there. I've been wearing the same color and style of scarf for the past 6 or so years. And large earrings- I tend to wear the same ones over and over. Simple wardrobes are much less stressful to me.

Jenny said...

I don't think I'm either one. Classic is how I would describe the way I dress, but I guess classic is somewhat stylish since it never goes out of style. I eschew trendiness, but only because I have limited means and don't wish to spend my clothing budget money on anything that might look really "off" in a short time. I stick with A-line skirts, fit and flare dresses, a denim skirt or two, twin sets, dainty but well-constructed and shapely t-shirts, and as far as shoes and jewelry go, I stick with pearls and mary janes for the most part and a pair of kitten heels for church. I know trends are everywhere, but I wonder if a more classic way of dressing is more of a southern thing?