The first few chore charts I made did not work. They were based on days of the week or month and there was not enough parental readiness for another layer of schedule in our days. We have been feebly attempting to follow various chore charts since January.
Then I saw my friend Sharon's brilliant chore chart: just a column for each job, with a sticker awarded when the job was done! Simple to follow, with no shame for missed days, yet a growing body of stickers to feel proud about. And I can modify it any time I want to, instead of waiting for a month to end. I told my kids that when they get 10 stars, they can have a piece of candy. ("What kind?" Genevieve wanted to know. Good heavens, is she old enough to start driving a bargain?!)
I started with a chore chart because the children wanted a rag, wanted to vacuum, wanted to help put sheets on the bed, heck, wanted to help with anything I was doing. I think children are initially attracted to adult work because of the novelty, but then they need to be taught how to actually do the job and then keep on doing it, even if they don't feel like it.
Genevieve habitually carries her dishes out to the kitchen after a meal without prompting, so I didn't put that on her job chart. She is working on jobs that challenge her skills a little. Ben, on the other hand, has a column for "clear place setting."
They have each earned a piece of candy so far. Sometimes they remind me of the chart, and sometimes we don't talk about "shiny stars" for a few days. I like how this is working for our children. Pin It